Does Chasing Success Really Matter?

Have you ever stopped for a moment and wonder why we do the things we do? Sometimes when I get anxious and stressed about needing to accomplish something I would take look at the situation and ask myself “why does this even matter?”

After all, in the grand scheme of things we live, we decide for our happiness every step of the way and then.. we die. That’s it.

Now that i’m in my first steps in my journey to adulthood, I have become more aware about the responsibilities that I have and the goals that I need to accomplish, like getting a high-paying job, experiencing my first relationship and many more.

Such goals and responsibilities have always been ingrained in all of us because that’s just how the way things are. We are taught to believe that the way to attain success is attaining such things.

Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with wanting to have a high paying job or a relationship, those things are good in itself. But for me, at least, I sometimes can’t help but ask why those things matter. Does living a good life really require such things? because it sure seems that way.

Growing up, I was always taught by my family that getting good grades will help me land a high-paying job and will therefore secure my future so I became a consistent honor student back in high school and college.

Now that I’ve graduated, i’m still struggling to look for a job. Even without the pandemic, companies pay more attention to your experience rather than your grades. Sure, I was academically successful but it didn’t really fulfill the comfort and happiness that I expected.

In a similar way, our whole lives we are taught how to chase and attain success which made it seem as though only then will we be able to attain happiness. But what if the things that we are led to believe that will help us attain happiness are merely an illusion?

If achieving such success does not necessarily equate or guarantee happiness then why do we pursue it anyway?

Life is sort of a funny thing don’t you think? We are lead by society to believe that such things like money, power, and status make up happiness and so we strive for it consciously and even subconsciously when in reality happiness is subjective.

When I opened up to my aunt about my worries about not reaching success or being financially well off, she told me about how I should first think about the kind of life that I want to live and took herself as an example.

My aunt wasn’t wealthy but she has a stable source of income. She didn’t marry but is now in a healthy relationship in which she was able to experience way past her youth. She achieved her dreams in her late 40s but she is satisfied. Then, she asked me if her life seemed awful.

And it wasn’t. Something about her question struck a chord in me. She lived simply but she was happy, and isn’t that what life is all about?

All this time I have believed and planned on being rich and successful in all aspects of my life but I never really asked myself about the kind of life I wanted to live. My aunt said that I can go through the traditional route where I can study again and pursue a stable high-income job, or I can start building my career now and go from there. Both takes time and can yield different or the same results but how it will go will solely depend on my choices.

It was baffling to me because I never thought that living a simple life can be an option because everyone around me is busy chasing grandeur. People are always talking about hustling and making huge cash in their 20s, and that’s great! But I’ve never considered simple living as great too, because it is.

I guess when it all comes down to it, all of us should get to choose what kind of life will makes us happy, whether that may be being a CEO of your own company or working a 9-5 job, marrying early in life or not getting married at all. It doesn’t have to be a constant pursuit of society’s definition of success because isn’t our own definition of happiness success in itself?

I’m not entirely sure but that’s something I have yet to find out.

Hello everyone! This is kind of a word vomit post but I hope you guys enjoyed it.

I am actually very curious about your thoughts and perspective on this. What do you think about success and happiness? Do you agree with me or disagree? Let me know!

20 thoughts on “Does Chasing Success Really Matter?”

  1. It is really great that at this very young age you are thinking about such profound answers.
    I am very successful, I have chased, I have worked etc. Let me give my perspective if it helps.
    Some people equate chasing to hard work. They say, well running after things isn’t great. So they relax in life, marry, follow some hobbies. Generally lead a peaceful life. That is OK if it makes them happy. But, to me it is inaction. inertness.
    Chasing is bad when you are unable to accept an outcome or when you are caught in a corporate life and at the end of life you find that you never had any time for yourself, children.
    The right path would probably be– find a purpose. Something which excites you. Something which you’d love to do. Purpose will change in life. That’s fine. Today, what excites you. Go for it. Doesn’t matter what people think. Their opinions are theirs. Success lies hidden in every field. But it must excite you. Don’t be afraid to work hard in this purpose. It will define you. Give you joy.
    Then, my friend, you won’t be chasing success. It will follow you.

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    1. Thanks for sharing your perspective on this! I understand your point about inaction since it’s also not a good thing to be complacent in our whole life. Of course, finding my own purpose and trying to work hard on achieving what that means for me should be the number one priority, and I agree. I guess what I was trying to say that that “success” doesn’t have to be about achieving the general notion of it that is defined by others or society. But then again, I still have a lot to learn about it as I go on my own journey! πŸ™‚ Anyway, Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts! ❀

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  2. I love this. This is something that I’ve definitely had to do some soul searching on. I came from a success hungry place in my heart and mind, and I’m not upset about it. I love that determined and passionate side to me, but I also had to come to the realization that there isn’t one definition of success. Success is personal. Achieving your wildest dreams is amazing, but equally amazing is waking up healthy and happy next to someone you live and having a life filled with memories and precious moments.

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    1. Same here! I also have a hunger for success and that is great!! I think the reason why people are so scared of the journey to success is because we label it to only one thing and if it isn’t achieved, then we have failed. But I think we can decide for ourselves what success is and what isn’t, and it’s a powerful thing because it lifts the unnecessary pressure that we may feel about it. Well, that’s what I believe in at least haha!

      Anyway, Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts, Jess! πŸ™‚ ❀

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  3. You are at a very interesting intersection of your life and I am glad that you are having such questions at an early age. Good luck and follow the path where your heart and reason meet. πŸ™‚

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  4. You are quite right, they have been brainwashed into believing that you must be successful. Someone once told me a tale of a man who worked in a factory making goods, he was paid a meagre wage to make the goods, he then paid tax on his wage and spent the rest on buying the goods he had made πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    1. Hahaha!πŸ˜‚ We’ll, at least the guy is doing and consuming what he loves! Thanks for reading and sharing! ☺️


  5. Hi! I really like your opinions and points on this topic! It is interesting how we don’t normally think of things like that until it is told to us. I think this post will help me in my future as I am still a high school student. Thank you for sharing you story. I also recently posted something about goals as well. My post is in regards to Christianity however, so if you desire to check it out that would be great. Good luck with where your future leads you!!

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  6. I really like your post! I ask myself the same questions every once in a while.
    I believe that the word success in itself is individual, also i think everyone has their own purpose in life and their human instincts drives them to fulfill it.

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    1. I’m glad you liked it! Yes, I just feel like we are all consumed by everyone’s definition of success when I think it is only you who gets to decide what that is. Anyway, Thank you for reading and for your lovely comment! ❀

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