Don’t Expect The Worst

How many times have you expected the worst in certain situations? If you’re an over thinker like me then i’m guessing the answer to this question would be, “every damn time”. Truth to be told, even I am still working on having a positive mindset but I would love to share my new found realization upon pondering on this topic.

When trying to achieve something, it has always been the basic advice to “not expect anything” simply because it was logical to think that the more the expectation, the bigger the disappointment. It softens the blow, as the say.

I’ll have to admit that it is true to some extent. After all, if you didn’t get a certain job or didn’t pass your exams, expecting the worst helps you take in the pain of failure. If you do get what you want, you’d be happier since this achievement was not something you thought was gonna happen.

However, this kind of belief system is only beneficial for a short term but not entirely helpful in the long run. It’s true that disappointment hurts but it’s only for a moment in time. Forming a habit of negativity, on the other hand, will be with you for a lifetime and it will only hinder you from helping yourself achieve what you desire.

This is because expecting the worst affects the way you do your work in ways you don’t realize. Since you are expecting a negative outcome, you unknowingly act as though this unwanted result is already happening therefore influencing the way you think and act.

The self-fulfilling prophecy is a real thing. It’s about becoming what you believe in, and if you believe that you’re a failure then that’s what you’ll be.

Believing in the worst makes you give up without even trying your best. You end up sabotaging yourself by subconsciously putting in less effort making your expectation into a reality. As much as it is hard for us to admit, It is easier to blame ourselves for messing up rather than accepting the fact that we didn’t achieve something despite giving our all.

I, for one, am guilty of this especially when it comes to meeting new people. I’ve always been an introvert, and I blamed my awkwardness from standing in the way of getting my peers to like me. Before I get to interact with an acquaintance, I already expect their dislike because of my inherent awkward personality.

It wasn’t until later that I realized that the only reason why I didn’t become closer to my peers was because I already acted distant since I expected them to not like me. Now that I look back on my previous encounter with them, I realized that they genuinely just wanted to get to know me and even supported my endevours despite not being as close. Still at the time, I interpreted their distance as dislike when I was the one who pushed them away.

It’s true that rejection, disappointment and failure are scary but expectation is actually not. Expectation is envisioning and looking ahead at all possibilities. We just sometimes forget that good things are possible for us too. It’s all about focusing on the positive side no matter the odds.

If you believe in being the best, then that’s what you’ll be.

I have learned in a self-help book this saying and it goes, “ask and it is given” which I believe is a healthier way to go about things. If you ask for something, you let yourself and everyone know that you will do what it takes to get it. It makes you more focused in achieving what you want and believing in yourself enough to achieve it.

Ultimately, expecting the best and doing your best is better than expecting the worst because If you do your absolute best, chances are it will be given. And if not, then at least there are no regrets and you’ll know and learn that there’s something better for you.

How about you, Reader? Has there ever been a chance where you expected the best and it all turned out well? I hope you’d tell me your story in the comment section. It would be inspiring for me and others who will get to read it! xx


24 thoughts on “Don’t Expect The Worst”

  1. I always have the tendency to not expect anything, like no positive or negative thoughts because I am too scared of getting disappointed. After reading this, I feel like maybe your right. If you have given your all then there is no harm in expecting. It was a good read!

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    1. Yes! Expecting the best works wonders with your mindset and overall performance.

      Glad that I could help you in some way! Thank you for reading xx ☺️

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  2. I really loved it. i lived half of my life afraid of being judged.
    We just sometimes forget that good things are possible for us too. It’s all about focusing on the positive side no matter the odds.
    this one of yours was the best

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    1. I’m guilty of expecting the worst too but making things happen is all about focusing on the possibilities!

      It makes me happy that you loved this entry! It means a lot to me, thank you! πŸ’•

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  3. Why why why didnt I read something like this ages agoπŸ₯ΊπŸ₯ΊπŸ₯Ί I’m only realising the importance of this so much recently! Being positive is SO nice. And to think I forced myself to think of the worst. Ugh.

    Thank youu a lot. I loved it when you said negativity hurts you for a lifetime. I’m so positive these days and it’s even really skyrocketing my work too.πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ƒ

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    1. Glad that I was able to give you something to think about and reflect on! Keep the positivity going and i’m sure you’ll make even more progress!

      Thank you for taking the time to read my post and appreciating it! It means a lot to me! ❀ πŸ™‚

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  4. Very interesting thoughts Fen. I am also an introvert and I have passed through the same problems of pushing people away just like you mentioned. But sometimes I think that it is just who I am. I try to make conversation with someone only when I sense a deeper connection with them. It just feels right with some people. Otherwise I simply don’t like to talk to people too much.
    About expectations, I have many occasions where my positive expectations were fulfilled just like a miracle. For example, I had to write lyrics for a song as a part of college assignment. I had 3 days to do it. But I didn’t feel like writing them in the first two days. I expected that the day of submission, I would wake up early at 4 AM and beautiful words will come to me. And they did! I would just believe and expect things to come at a certain time and they do! Not always but very often! It just feels like miracles, like something outside of you is listening and fulfilling my expectations! πŸ™‚

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    1. I agree! There’s a certain magic that happens whenever you expect something good to happen to you. It’s like calling out to the universe and it giving you what you deserve! Thank you for sharing! xx 😊

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  5. Hello, dear Fen. Truth be told, we always go cheerful on the road, being optimistic and hoping that you will get the job. But then, our mindset is somehow scheduled to think the wrong way, I am not going to succeed, to take the job and so on.

    Everything changes when you actually attend the interview, go through the tough questions, and understand the challenge. Because we always get used to what we have, and when a promotion comes up, we don’t know exactly the questions and the mountain of inquiry (for situations that we did not have ever thought about).

    In my case, I have learned that even if I know the theory well I have to stop being so nice and sweet and start to spitfire. The first interview in this company (not my other challenges) thought me that. In some cases, you have to be a warrior and fight for your rights and be able to point out the injustices that take place.

    It is not easy, and yes, our minds might tell us that we are not able to do it. But then, we went through bad times prior, did we quit? Did we just left our toys and went home? This is not how the real-life works.

    Take care!

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    1. I agree with what you said about not be so nice and sweet all the time because there will be situations where we all need to really fight for something that we believe in. Thank you for sharing, Katherine! Take care as well!

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