I’ve been taking this free online course online called The Science of Well-Being at Coursera which basically talks about happiness, on how it can be learned and understood, and how necessary it is for its methods to be implemented. I’m telling you guys, i’m taking this Project Self-Love seriously!
In my first week, I took a short survey that measures character strengths as one of the requirements to determine my current baseline of happiness. And based from the results and its given explanation, I find myself agreeing with it.
Good Sense of Judgement
Judgment involves critical thinking, weighing the evidence fairly, thinking things through, and examining the evidence from all sides rather than jumping to conclusions.
I don’t know about you but I’ve always strongly disliked gossip. Don’t get me wrong, it is entertaining at times but I dislike it because it’s not the the whole truth. It’s always a biased version of the truth told by different people. That’s why I don’t engage in it most of the time. If I do, I always question the story, in my mind at least.
Similar to what is happening online with regards to “cancel culture”, rather than giving immediate judgement I would still try to think about what prompted the person to do or say such a thing and try to understand the other’s perspective. I actually feel strongly about this but that is a topic for another time.
Bottom line is, I believe that not everything that we see and know about other people is the immediate truth. There is always two sides to a story and knowing both sides will get you to the whole truth, and it is only kind of truth that matters.
Prudence means being careful about your choices, stopping and thinking before acting. It is a strength of restraint. When you are prudent, you are not taking unnecessary risks, and not saying or doing things that you might later regret.
Honestly, I was surprised to see this as my strength because I’ve always seen this trait of mine as cowardice since I felt like I prevented myself from doing risky but exciting things, and it got me thinking about what ifs.
Now that this quality of mine is presented as a strength, my perspective towards it has shifted to a positive light. Now that I think about it, I did manage to spend the most of my college years with the best and the safest experience that I could have while living on my own.
Sure, I didn’t get to go to clubs or went bar-hopping, and any other “cliche wild college activities” but I did manage to learn a lot; I got to be a part of a good organization full of talented people; and I experienced having occasional drinks at karaoke bars with trustworthy friends that took care of me when I got wasted (lol). I respected my own boundaries and I’d rather it stay that way than doing unnecessary risks.
Good Sense of Gratitude
Gratitude involves feeling and expressing a deep sense of thankfulness in life, and more specifically, taking the time to genuinely express thankfulness to others. This thankfulness can be for specific gifts or thoughtful acts.
Losing a loved one has led me to a new path and it opened my eyes to all of the blessings I have that has always went unnoticed. It’s sad that I realized such things too late but I guess that’s just how funny life is.
Having death constantly in my thoughts definitely shifted my perspective. It made me savor every happy moment and do my best in everything that I do because it may be something that I will never have again. It has also become my mission to be grateful in everything that I have and make every moment worthwhile.
From then on, I have become focused on the important things in life. No matter what problem I had, all that matters is my friends and family, and what I choose to do with the time I have. It’s a lesson that not everyone understands, and in some way, i’m thankful that I got to learn it.
This blog post is my answer to the third question “What are 3 of your strongest qualities?” for Project Self-Love, a writing project that I did where I answer journal prompt questions for self-love. Feel free to check my last entry: 5 Physical Features I Love About Myself
How about you, reader? What are your character strengths? I urge you to try the survey to find out (especially if you’re lost as I was)! I’m very curious about yours. Thanks for reading!