Stop Using Self-Deprecating Jokes

Have you used self-deprecating jokes as a coping mechanism? I have too. However, as I commit to try in being more confident I realized how using self-deprecating jokes actually hinder me from reaching my goal, which is why I decided to stop doing it.

Self-deprecating jokes have always been seen as a relatable way to be funny, a trend that everyone seems to be doing. However, what people fail to realize is that there is a fine line between being okay with making mistakes and laughing it off, and pretending to be fine and passing it off as a joke.

The difference between the two is that laughing at one’s mistakes takes a certain level of confidence and self-assurance so much so that a person does not let these imperfections define them. The latter, on the other hand, is being hyperaware of ones faults and the inability to accept them, and using jokes as a coping mechanism.

Being self-deprecating is toxic in itself simply because constantly joking about these errors is no different from nitpicking oneself. It is being your own bully. It is forming a destructive thought habit that one begins to see as the truth.

A self-deprecating person tends to focus on their failures over and over again that it becomes their identity. They tie themselves to their mistakes, broadcasts it as a joke, and mistakes laughter as an approval from their peers.

There is no good outcome from telling self-deprecating jokes. Telling such jokes can be an indirect way of teaching peers how they can view and treat you simply because that is how you view and treat yourself, a joke and a failure.

What’s worse than this is having your peers not laugh at your self-deprecating jokes. Not only is it awkward but it’s like giving them an indirect invitation to your own pity party. Besides, there are so much more funnier jokes that are way more fun to tell.

As you can see, both scenarios only end up with you wallowing in self-pity which is honestly such a waste of time and effort that you could’ve used for uplifting yourself.

As cliche as it seems, the only way you can stop using self-deprecating jokes is to speak kindly about yourself. All you need to do is to break the negative habit and refocus to the positive side. Remember you strengths, assets, and good qualities. Pay attention to your thoughts and catch yourself whenever you find yourself drifting back.

It will be hard at first but do it because you deserve to be taken seriously and to be thought of kindly, especially by yourself and then others.


Hello there, Reader! I just wanted to let you know that I am no expert but I wrote this based on my own experience and observation. My friends and I actually love to use self-deprecating jokes but now that I get older I find myself getting tired of those kinds of jokes, especially now that am really committed in improving my character.

Those kinds of jokes just don’t do it for me anymore. How about you? Do you still find yourself using self-deprecating jokes? I hope this article would help change your mind.

Love,
Fen

Ps. I would just like to greet all mothers out there a Happy Mother’s Day! Thank you for giving all of the love you could give. I actually wanted to write a mother’s day post as well but I think it’s a story i’ll be ready to tell with time. xx

17 thoughts on “Stop Using Self-Deprecating Jokes”

  1. I always hated self deprecative jokes, not a huge fan. I believe one is made to be loved not to be made fun of.

    And if we don’t love ourselves first, there is nobody that will be able to do this for us. And we will keep looking endlessly for that love in someone else, but cannot identify it.

    Respect yourself, love yourself, because there has never been a person like you and there never will be again. Osho

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