I Have A Question

I’ll get straight into it – Do you share your blog posts to your personal accounts where all the people who know you can easily read your blog? You see, I’ve been having an internal debate about this.

I do understand that as writers, we write for people to read. And I’ve seen countless of blog posts claiming that a big part of marketing our blog is to share it by exhausting all means. However, I still feel a bit hesitant in sharing my blog posts on my personal accounts.

It’s always easy to open your heart to people who don’t know you simply because there aren’t any attachments, but it’s another story when it comes to people who have actually met you and have an established perception of who you are.

In case you haven’t known yet, I decided to start Project Self-Love on my blog wherein I post my answers to a certain list of journal prompt questions. And as I go on about this journey, I am really doing my best to be honest and vulnerable as much as possible, and I do want to share it so that I can reach a larger audience.

But at the same time, I don’t want certain people in my personal life to know other sides of me when they don’t even deserve to know me like that. So far, I have shared some blog posts on my personal accounts already, ones I am comfortable enough to share, but I’m still contemplating whether I should be brave enough to share all posts or remain as is.

Am I the only one who’s like this? I don’t know. Please share your thoughts and opinion on this at the comments section! I’m losing my mind going back and forth with myself. Your input would be extremely helpful!

Love,
Fenichi

43 thoughts on “I Have A Question”

  1. Hi! Permit me to answer your question, as someone who’s been into this situation for six years (and counting.) I’d like to bring up three points:

    1. If you really want to keep things personal, DO NOT share your posts in circles where your close family members are. My personal Facebook account makes no reference to the blog I run (I don’t even like my own blog’s FB page), and the only person who knows of my blog’s existence is my younger brother. Same with Instagram – I’ve had to resort to blocking my own family members lest they learn of my blog’s existence.

    2. I make sure that the people in my circle I met through blogging do not intersect with my immediate and extended relatives. I’m aware that you’re a Filipino, so I think you’re familiar with the classic case of an overly inquisitive tito or tita.

    3. It’s always best to write under a nom de plume (pen name). Anonymity has worked for the traditional medium of writing, and it works just the same for the digital medium.

    Lastly, do not listen to what the foreigners around the Internet telling you to market, market, market. It’s their way of milking you for a quick buck with SEO bullcrap! In addition, it defeats the purpose of keeping a low profile and maintaining the authenticity of your posts. Go against the grain and let their market be saturated by canned blog entries.

    I hope this helps! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. I am quite new to all of this, but I have decided to share each post on my personal Facebook account with no explanation as to what it is. I have had some feedback from those whose opinion I value; the majority of my Facebook connections likely ignore it entirely.

    I suppose it all depends on what you are comfortable with. Some of your posts are quite personal, as are mine, but I do not see an issue with sharing a link, without ‘over-hyping’ the fact that it is your own blog, so to speak. I like to leave it ambiguous! ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. I see! I’ve been doing the same methods so far but i’m glad to see your perspective on this. Thank you for your thoughts! I’ll input this factor in my decision making! ๐Ÿ˜Šโค๏ธ

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  3. I have been asking myself this exact question.

    When I started my blog, I decided not to attach my name to it at all, so that I’m completely anonymous. I started a blog because I wanted to have a way to continuously practice my writing, not necessarily because I wanted to share my innermost thoughts with friends and family.

    I also guess I wondered if what I wrote would be any good… and was nervous that people I knew would read it and judge or analyse me? In the end, I decided I was doing it for me and not anyone else, so there’s no need to share it with anyone I know.

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  4. I can totally relate. When I started blogging I didn’t tell anyone for 3 months, after that I finally revealed it to my family. And as I was getting great response from readers, I decided to promote it with more people.

    I have separate Instagram account for my Blog but for a certain period of time I was sharing those posts on my personal instgram and whatsapp.

    But then I stopped doing it. I don’t promote any of my writings on my personal accounts. Not even featured articles or poems or the recent blogger interview.

    The thing is I’m not comfortable anymore. Though there some friends who do follow my blog accounts.

    So, if you feel like doing it then do it. But don’t force yourself just because a blog needs to promoted.

    You can still do it without feeling uncomfortable by creating Blog specific social media accounts.

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    1. May I know why you suddenly became uncomfortable for sharing your blog? I’ve been wondering about the reprecussions of sharing muy blog as well.

      Anyway, Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! I’ve already created a separate social media account for my blog but i’m still torn about sharing it on my personal account. I’ll keep your advice on mind! ๐Ÿ™‚

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      1. I felt like I was annoying people by posting too much about my blog. And I felt like i should only share it with people who really wants to read what I write.

        So, that’s what I felt. It may not be true, no one said to me that I was annoying.

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  5. Hello nice to meet you. Well I don’t share my posts on personal accounts because it’s a personal space that I prefer to share with people who doesn’t know me that much. I don’t like to promote nothing that hangs in my soul…๐Ÿฅฐ

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    1. I see. Glad to know your perspective on this, Alluveen. Your input helps me a lot! Thanks for reading and sharing, and it’s nice to meet you as well ๐Ÿ™‚

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  6. The fact that you’ve already shared some of your blog posts to your personal accounts already means that people who follow you on those personal accounts will know you have a blog. You can make your blog ‘private’, so it’s only visible to you and users you approve, but unfortunately, that means all your posts will then be private.

    Over the years I’ve been blogging, I’ve seen many people asking the questions you have asked. Most set up a blog which is anonymous so that nobody knows who the person behind the blog is. They also open up social media accounts for the anonymous blog, so you may like to consider running two blogs and having different social media accounts for both. However, running two blogs will take up more time, so you may want to think about how much time you have spare to fulfil running two blogs.

    Personally, I don’t write anything of a too personal nature on my blog because I know family and friends read it. Also, I know that I wouldn’t have enough time to run two blogs. For me, blogging is all about fun and enjoyment, and that’s how I want to keep it.

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    1. I understand. I shared my blog in my personal account at a time where I was comfortable enough to share them. But now that I decided to share more personal stuff, I guess you could say that I got myself in a bind. Thank you for your thoughts on this! It will help me a lot with regards to decision making! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  7. I had the same dilemma recently when I wanted to fully promote my blog on all of my social media accounts but then something stopped me. I have been โ€œbloggingโ€ since 2015 and itโ€™s actually great to have your own little secret world where nobody knows you and if I share it I feel like Iโ€™m going to lose the sense of why I created it in the first place which is venting out and expressing myself without fear of judgments.

    But I also decided to just link it on twitter since twitter is very different from Facebook (you know what I mean) lol. But if you really want to grow your audience and invest in blogging then you should really promote it to your accounts but if it means causing you anxiety about opening up yourself to the people you know, I donโ€™t think itโ€™s worth it. Itโ€™s really a frustrating decision to make ๐Ÿ˜… But always remember that writing should always be a safe space for you. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•

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    1. I see what you mean. Thank you for sharing your experience and opinion on this! You’re right about writing should be a safe space. I’ll take this into consideration! Thanks again! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. Its my personal space where I can be myself and write my thoughts openly. I prefer keeping it away from my personal accounts. Only those I am comfortable sharing with I do share. But otherwise not really.

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  9. A pretty good question actually. Every story is an experience, likewise, every blog is a story, if you want people to learn something from your story, share blogs on personal account once a month by doing a collage of all blog snapshots. If you consider, this generation shares posts (Mostly pics) which make no sense. Sharing knowledge is quite good. At the end of the day, you’ve to see things through a different perspective, moving the audience to the newsletter so that least promotion would be required on personal space.

    Every Blog is worth space on a forum, given that it spreads knowledge and enlightens people.

    Take Care! Keep Blogging ๐Ÿ™‚

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  10. I feel the same dilemma. Half of my posts are somewhat related to my work, so do I share them with clients? The other half is un-related and and a side of me that they don’t necessarily know and I’m not sure I’m ready to share. Knowing my curious (in a good way) clients, they’d probably click through to the unrelated posts or my linked social media accounts.
    In terms of family, I’ve shared my blog with my mum, who’s subscribed to it. Other than that, my family doesn’t know about it yet.

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    1. I completely understand! Itโ€™s frustrating that we canโ€™t get best of both worlds. Itโ€™s either we share or not because we canโ€™t prevent people from reading certain posts. Iโ€™m trying my best to weigh down the pros and cons of the 2 options. I hope other bloggerโ€™s comments on this post will help you out as well! โ˜บ๏ธ

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  11. I understand this completely! Whatever you are more comfortable with, there are definitely positives and negatives to doing both…as with most things! LOL. I keep my blog more private and I have an Instagram, but it is strictly for my blog. I’m a pretty private person in general, I know that probably sounds ironic since I blog ๐Ÿ˜„โค

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    1. Thank you for sharing! I think by now I decided to keep my blog personal as well as I’ve weighed down the pros and cons haha! Your comment has been helpful! I appreciate it a lot!

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      1. Aww you are always so sweet! I’m glad to have been able to help ๐Ÿ˜ƒ I think you made a good choice! The good thing is that in the future if you change your mind, you can always involve the people that you know

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  12. I guess this is a common dilemma.
    My family didn’t know about my blog during the initial times. I’ve been here for four years now. Recently, I’ve started sharing my posts in my personal account.
    I have very few personal posts here on blog. Anyway, what’s going to change if they judge? It’s their business. I’ve attained a stage where I don’t mind any conflicting thoughts with people I know.
    Sharing the blog or keeping it private is absolutely a personal choice!

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  13. I RELATE. Iโ€™m new here and I want people to checkout my blog. But I still canโ€™t gather up the courage to let my friends, family read my blogs. I feel that Iโ€™ll be judged badly and my internal thoughts will be questioned. Ugh, itโ€™s tough. I hope soon weโ€™ll all be confident enough to let our near ones learn about us:)

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    1. Glad i’m not the only one who felt this way. I hope other people’s thoughts in the comment section can help you in deciding what to do with your blog. Thank you for reading and commenting! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  14. Oh God! I have the same problem!! I don’t have a personal account as of yet, but have been pondering upon this question, in case I do open an account would I like to share my blog posts on it. Maybe if my blog grows a bit more I ll be confident enuf, but yet I am confused! Anyways just trust your heart on this?โ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿ˜€

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