Have you ever wondered why other people’s lives are so full of smiles and enjoyment whenever we go to social media? I have. I’ve gotten used to comparing myself to my peers thinking about why my life is so different from theirs that, I’ll have to admit, caused a lot of damage on my self-esteem.
It’s hard not feel bad about yourself when you see your friends dangling their stable jobs, romantic relationships and every other thing that you don’t have in your life right in front of you. I tried my best to take a step away from social media because of this, and I find myself breaking out of the illusion altogether.
The happiness displayed in most social media posts is drastically different from the reality behind it. Just because a group of friends always post pictures of them together doesn’t mean that they don’t occasionally stab each other in the back, and a couple who often shares their old romantic memories could also be an attempt to revive what they used to have. Questioning the motivation behind such posts is necessary, for me at least, because it brings you back to the truth of imperfection.
Sure, there may be people who are genuine with what they post but then again, must we must publicly share every little update in our lives? or is it only to gain satisfaction from the likes of our peers?
People have subconsciously correlated such likes and reactions as some sort of approval which fosters a culture that is dependent on validation of others instead of seeking self-fulfillment. It’s almost as if life events and other accomplishments don’t count if not shared with everyone you know or if it didn’t garner enough interaction.
Social media has become an illusion making factory where society acknowledges those who make the perfect fantasy. I’ll admit that I have been a part of this kind of system. But as much as I try to disassociate myself by uninstalling all of my social media applications, doing so has made me unexpectedly lonely and irresponsible.
The incorporation of social media in schools and work has made it impossible to leave it entirely since erasing all social media accounts is almost the same as erasing your entire existence. It’s like being trapped in a social sphere with no permanent way out.
Despite all the benefits the modern world has received from it, I can’t help but wishing to live during the simpler times when people met organically, had the courage to talk to each other face to face and genuinely ask the other on how they’re doing.
However, I’m glad that there are still safe spaces on the internet like blogs here on WordPress where people are still able to share their thoughts and emotions in the most honest and unfiltered way possible. It goes to show that despite being flooded with every kind of illusion, there are still real and genuine content. We just have to choose better and look closer at the content that we want to see.
Hi, Reader! What are your thoughts on social media? I’m curious. It’s hard trying to stay away from social media especially at this time of quarantine but i’m doing it to maintain my mental health. I hope you’re doing well! x